Thanks very much :D
This is a great question and I’m really racking my brain for how to answer it.
I think my answer is: I don’t take it personally.
Now, I don’t mean to imply that that’s EASY. It’s not.
It’s probably the biggest obstacle that human beings have to being connected, authentic and vulnerable with one another.
Because when we feel unsafe, we recoil, go into our shells and essentially protect ourselves from being hurt.
But people who are overly critical really only need to be heard, loved and understood. There’s pain behind anger. And it’s a huge gift to relate to someone as a human who needs love when they are being so… UGH.
UGH is a technical term, obviously.
Again, it’s not easy. It’s something I’m trained to do as a coach. It’s something I practice every single day in my personal and professional life.
It will probably take me my entire lifetime to master.
For now… I’ll keep practicing, screwing up, and trying again. I invite you to do the same :)
How do you deal with people who are overly critical? People you encounter everyday. Eg. At work. I love seeing your posts btw! You're an awesome person!
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